Band Baaja Barat & much more.....

Could not hide my true colors, danced like nobody is watching; off course after couple of Whiskey pegs at Friend's marriage.

Had lot of fun while hiding groom's shoes and making sure that Bride's side will return them after getting wrong ones. My friend's Sali was so pissed of with our tricks that she just gave up.

Being Marwari marriage, Saat Phere (seven Vows) started after mid night around 12.30 am and it went on till 5 am in the morning but we made it sure that this procession becomes entertaining for all of us including Panditji by cracking jokes in between, teasing the groom & the bride.

We got so mean & mischievous but it was hell lot of fun. I am damn sure my friend won't forget his first night of marriage for all the wrong reasons. We demanded few thousand rupees for an entry in his room for all our efforts which went into decoration of his bed room with flowers and all other stuff. (our intention was to delay his entry) it was 10.30 pm and he said he doesn't have that much of money, he emptied his all pockets, borrowed few hundred but he wasn't able to make it. We teased him a lot.

He denied to eat anything and at last the poor chap broke down at 12.30 am. We apologized & made him laugh. After that we made them cut the ribbon of our gifted Godreg fridge and ordered Bhabhiji whenever we will visit them we will drink water from this fridge only...

Then gave him the keys of the room which was waiting for some more surprises.

We have already hidden the dry color on the entire bed, on the flowers which were decorated over the bed in such a way that it was not visible even we replaced lights in the room with night lamp. We had planted six mobile phones in the room with alarm set on at different times (1am, 1.10 am, 2 am n so on) even we replaced sim cards with ours so that we can give miss calls...

We made them seat together on the bed and asked to take name of each other (In Marathi it is called Ukhane (Nav Ghene) & after that his entire family joined, (by now blushing) bride says "East or West Amol is the Best" we couldn't stop laughing.

How did we have such an awesome time and fun? sorry being into management makes me observe and conclude ....

1. You need to be hopeless, shameless, crazy friends & become selfless for a common goal of helping your friend & his family to complete this entire event successfully and at the same time don't forget to enjoy every bit of it. ( And Bonus was due to his marriage our prolonged get together was possible, I met lots of my school friends, we could booze together, drive, stay away from home and few other perks can't recollect now)

2. Making few allies in the respected families (Groom's or Bride's) possibly younger ones so that they will support for extending Barat distance or time, etc. ( Ours were the Groom's two Jijaji's, his two cousins & his younger brother)

3. Arranging an alcohol expert to make it sure one third of Barat is drunk upto the limit. - I had taken the entire responsibility -:)I mean to stop them when they were over drinking.

4. Arrange some change money. We took one bundle of one thousand with Rs.10 notes and some change money (Rs.20, Rs. 100 & Rs. 500) to bribe the Bandwala's so that they will play their instruments with their heart and mind on....believe me it's lot of fun while dancing I had kept 100 buks in my mouth n my both hands were full with Rs.10 notes.

May God bless both of them with happiness, togetherness & love!

- Parik....

Difference between being Loved and Being Used!

While a man was polishing his new car,
his 4 yr old son picked up a stone
and scratched lines on the side of the car.
In anger, the man took the child's hand
and hit it many times not realizing
he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost his finger
due to multiple fractures.

When the child saw his father.....
with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my finger grow back?'
The man was so hurt and speechless;
he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.

Devastated by his own actions..... .
sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;
the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.

Anger and Love have no limits;
choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely
life & remember this:
Things are to be used and people are to be loved.
The problem in today's world is
that people are used while things are loved.

Let's try always to keep this thought in mind:
Things are to be used,
People are to be loved.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character;
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

I hope you have a good day no matter what problems you may face
it's the only day you'll have before it's over.

Great Expectations!

A wonderful post

by - Priyanka Singh....http://priyanca.blogspot.com

All my life in every relationship that I choose out of my own free will or out of compulsion, the underlying principle has been expectations.

Parents expect you to do well in life, nothing wrong....but they expect.

Teachers expect you to do well in studies, nothing wrong....but they expect.

Extended family expect you to support them, financially or emotionally....expectations again.

Boss expects you to perform and * exceed expectations*

Lovers expect love and commitment...isn't it natural?....but I will say even that is again expectation.

Friends expect love, support, understanding...

Here I would like to clarify that I differentiate between expectations and carrying out responsibilities ( more on this in other chapters)

Do I expect anything from anyone?
Very rarely

Do I get hurt if what I expect is not fulfilled by others?
No, never.

I find nothing wrong in expectations, but I can never understand or relate myself with the hurt that other people feel when someone else does not meet their expectations. At times, when I am hurting, I tell myself * Kid, take care* I don't wait anyone else to come and comfort me, I do it myself first.

Expectation for me are like a stone placed on a butterfly....not necessarily heavy one...but then butterfly is not meant to be under stone, likewise I find it terribly wrong of people to expect something, anything from others

The only one who by all the moral, social and economical principles is justify to expect anything from me is myself. I am comfortable and at peace with this, anything else makes my heart cringe, my body shiver and my mind crazy.

Your life is first and foremost yours. Let the greatest love of your life be self-love. The only way expectations are healthy when you do that yourself.
Again here I am not advising to consciously hurt anyone, I just wish to emphasis that one should take very good care of themselves first. Remember even in plane the flight attendant ask you to secure your safety first before helping other passengers..

Derive your life purpose from the things that will make you happy.

Derive your happiness from the things that you are at peace with.

Do things, take risk, be a fool.

Do not loose out or do things because somebody expects something from you.

You are not obliged for other people happiness

Never blame yourself for other people's hurt.

And never ever you allow butterfly to get crushed :)

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I agree with her views but sometimes I just feel selfish if I deattach myself from expections and I think its natural for we Indian's because we are being raised in such an envirnment where expections are already set right from your birth.
- Parik....