What Do Men Want From Women??
From the Editor of Cosmopolitan,
- Payal Puri
OH, MAN!
Men- we love them,hate them,are exasperated by them,sometimes understand them all too well.. the one thing,however, that we can never say about men is that they bore us. When you come right down to it, we'd rather live with them than without them, wouldn't we?
Luckily, there's a lot less women don't understand about men than vice versa. And once you finish reading this issue, you'll know as much as you ever need to know about your dude. And we got this straight from the horses' mouth, men themselves!
SO what is it....
Sure, you know babelicious looks and serious booty turn him on. But there's a lot
more guys dig about you that they'd never tell you.. but they told us!
- By Disha Muralidharan
11 things men absolutely love about women!!!!
You've got a drawer full of lacy underwear, you've slogged for hours and hours at the gym and lived on celery and boiled pulses to lose that pinch of flab, and you've also, at the same time, managed to perfect the art of strutting about in sky-high stilettos. But apart from this locker-room list of turn-ons firmly sitting on your head and making you agonise over your cellulite, what is it that men really find irresistible about you? We're telling you, no holds barred, what no man will ever tell you himself, not even while you're wearing your corset and high heels and showing off your toned bod- the 11 things he absolutely loves about you.
I Completely agree with Disha.......Parik.........
1. You're a strong, self-sufficient woman who manages to run her life without the help of her man. you can even change a flat tyre all by yourself! You don't need him. although occasionally you might play damsel in distress and let hm gallantly come to your rescue. If for example you cant find the menu for the pizza delivery place and your PMS is making you rant a bit and you need dairy comforting, like, now. you can manage perfectly well without him and he knows this as long as he feels like he can play the part of a strong, protective man who triumphantly gets you a cheese pizza with extra cheese and an ice cream sundae to boot the fact that you don't need him is something of an intoxicant because be will do everything he can to make himself indispensable to you.
Just let him feel like you can't do without him sometimes. Let him do the things you'd rather not do it you were given a choice like unscrewing car oil don't want to get all greasy do you? and your independence will serve to remind him of why the things you do need him for, make him so special. All right so we're simplifying things tad, but at the end of the day we all like to feel needed, and we all want to know that sometimes we're not.
2. Your ability to make intelligent conversation...
Dumb blondes? We don't think so Gentlemen really prefer brunettes with brains. You see an hourglass figure might get the boys going, but is there ever anything as attractive as a beautiful, intelligent woman? Someone who can hold a conversation for more than five minutes(sorry chats about make-up don't count) who is interested in a variety of things and can talk about practically anything under the sun, or even just someone's who's really, good at her job. What you're brainy about doesn't have to be something he also understands, you could be in different professions, for ex. he's a banker and you're an architect, or he could be an artist and you're working as an accountant. What ultimately counts is that you're the kind of girl who has more personality than a lipstick!
The point here being, that you know your stuff. And of course, it helps loads if he can have a discussion with you over the Sunday paper and breakfast. and he knows you know enough to keep him interested . Maybe even to keep the both of you debating. A difference of opinion can get the juices flowing and make the attraction of opposites more intense that ever. So go on, disagree, show him why more women graduate college than men.
3. Your humanitarian side.....
You can't help buying a wilted bunch of roses from a street urchin at the traffic lights, you know the names of every errand boy in your building you want to take all the pups in the animal shelter home especially the ugly ones. All right youre not Mother Teresa, but you have natural sense of empathy and compassion that makes you well the warm and fuzzy person that you are.
Even if he teases you about it, he finds it endearing and yes very attractive. Even when you make him soup and say poor baby when he has a cold and is acting like it's the end of the world. And the times you carefully leave him alone when he's stressed out, working 26/7, and needs to be in his own space. Whatever little thing it is that you do, your kindness is something he treasures.
Men, of course, are encouraged to suppress their empathy and sensitivity at a young age, while we have the freedom to let our nurturing side show. He likes it that you're able to be so open and generous with your kindness, and it allows him to let that side of him show too sometimes, even if reluctantly. your softness makes it all right for him to be hard sometimes.
4. Your professional success
You're doing better at the office than ever, you are the shining star. You've earned every bit of the raise and promotion you recently got, you work your butt off and you get the success you truly deserve. And that's just plain hot. Your man is not only proud of your achievements, he finds it a huge turn-on to know that such a successful woman chose him to share her body fluids with.
If he's successful at his work as well, then he knows just what it takes, and appreciates you the more for having the drive and commitment ot get there, MOreover, he will see you even more as an equal , and will be quite unable to keep hands off you.
Ego is a funny thing and while it may not be a good idea to share exactly how much money you're making in the process , (money . incidentally , is the number one reason couples fight) your accomplishments in the workplace are just another reason for him to be proud of the woman you are. No one will clap louder than him, no one will beam more.
5. Your attention to detail
You never forget birthdays, you always remember the things that matter, the little things that his brain never seems to be able to retain, somehow. you make sure you
buy a housewarming present for that party he's so very completely forgotten about, his little niece's birthday, you remember to ask after his friend's asthma, basically you pay attention to all the little details that he might miss out on. While it's common to hear someone talking about temporary amnesia, amongst people in general, men have a tendency to be plagued by temporary detail disorder. He's conditioned to look at the big picture, you're more worried about the smaller picture that he loses track of. you keep the wheels turning while he tries to steer you down the long wound road of life.
without you, he'd be the boor he knows he is. With you, however, he gets transformed into a caring, sensitive man who pays attention to little details and he totally adores you for it. He wishes he could be more like that, but is secretly relived that you can take over that side of things so that he doesn't have have to worry about it at all. The next time you remind him to brush his teeth, he's actually thanking his stars (with mouthfuls of foam) that he has you.
6. Your low maintenance side
Sure, he likes taking you out and showing you off, he likes buying you expensive presents (he'd better) and he wants to make sure he does everything to your liking so that you don't find him lacking. But sometimes, he just wants to have an easy, relaxed evening with his girl, bumming out on the couch, ordering in pizza and watching a DVD.
No one likes a diva. If you're the type that constantly demands, whether it's a perfectly chilled bottle of wine or more of his time and attention, try backing off and taking a deep breath. There's nothing more attractive than a woman who's confident and relaxed, who can roll with the punches and ease up on her guy. He's not perfect, and he is going to make mistakes,probably lots of them.
7. Your commitment to family
He may not be ready yet to slide a ring onto your finger and carry you over the threshold, but he wants to know that when he does take the step, you'll channel Godfather - or Karan Johar. It's all about loving your family.
But Seriously, the fact that you take so much care when dealing with delicate family matters, or even just that you speak to your parents everyday,shows him values that all men seek in a potential mate. He likes the fact that you can be there not only for him but his close kin. So that he knows that when the time comes, you will have your priorities right, and will deal with as much sensitivity and care with his family, for example, as he expects. It comes naturally to you, and he expects it too.
8. Your having a life-without him
Cling film might be great for wrapping leftover grub, but in relationship, being too needy is never a good idea. It's not just because it'll scare him away either,It's healthier for you to have other interests, to not live in a bubble where he and you are the only ones and the rest of the world doesn't exist. Go out, make plans without him,don't cancel evenings out with your friends all the time. Think of how annoyed you would be if he clung to you all the time and didn't go for his sometimes blessed nights out with his boys, leaving you alone to watch re-runs of Friends and take long soaks in the tub,oh, the horror of it all.....
It keeps him on his toes, knowing the can't take you for granted,that you won't always be around to wait for his beck and call. Even though you do stuff together , couply stuff, it's equally important that you do things on your own friends, your own life, your own interests that the other person doesn't share, that you exist detached from him as well. It keeps a spark going, and you don't want to let that spark die. you have to have things to talk about when you're wrinkly like a prune, right?
9. Your love for 'guy' stuff..
You spend as much time fiddling with your Blackberry as he does, you're as fascinated by cars, you cheer on the Indian cricket team as fiercely as he does. All this and you've got breasts can you blame him for being hopelessly in love with you? Your interest in what is loosely and inaccurately called 'guy stuff'is something he respects, and he might even ask your advice when his ego is feeling invincible.you might not be a stock trading genius , but he respects your financial decisions, nonetheless. Maybe you follow the real estate market keenly, and he knows he can trust your judgment on whether or not to buy that great apartment. Because he knows you have his best interests at heart and mind.
As long as he sees you keeping your femininity, and doesn't feel threatened by your interests (he Is a Man, in the end) he will find it endlessly attractive. There are more layers to you than he might have imagined at first , and how cool is it that the two of you can scream at a TV, an unbeatable combination.
THESE WILL MAKE HIM RUN...FAST!
* Don't play hard to get want to be considered a great catch? Be available to have a
relationship if you say you want one.
* Don't marry him in your head: Be a smart chick,learn to stay in the moment, have an
eye on the future, but don't live it.
* Don't come on too strong: it's fun to sweep a guy off his feet, but don't become the human equivalent of cling film.Grow slowly, lightly into a relationship.
* Don't expect to be saved: Relying on a new partner in the process of improving yourself is unattractive. Solve your own problems.
* Be honest: About your goals, priorities,intentions,wants,needs etc. You don't have anything to hide.
10. Your spontaneity quotient...
Men love to plan. Holidays,dates,sex. Blame it on their strategic warrior side, but more likely than not,your guy likes to have a fairly will-organized idea in his head of exactly how he wants things to go. Now whether he practices his lines to the mirror or draws diagrams in a notebook is a different story (yes he's a loser , we know)He means well , after all, he doesn't want tthings to go wrong, he wants to be in control of the situation. Do you find yourself wishing he were more spontaneous? Just go ahead and jump him when he least expects it, and sooner or later, he'll get the idea and follow suit.
Your impulsiveness enchants him-your decision to suddenly spend half your paycheck on a killer pair of shoes, the way you spoil his well -made holiday plans by deciding you would rather go for a long walk through the market rather than take pictures at the nearest monument, how you color your hair blonde on a whim boy was that a bad decision . But whether your spontaneity leads to mind-blowing sex, niggling annoyance or a whole new experience, he can't imagine his well-planned life without it.
11. You're taken over by lust, passionately going at it on the kitchen table, your inhibitions thrown to the wind, and it's all terribly serious and intense and wonderful, When suddenly , a wayward fork finds its way into a butt check. Ouch, Do you cringe in embarrassment, carry on as if nothing happened, and fake an orgasm(for there's no way you're going to have one now)? Or do you collapse into laughter-cause let's face it, sex is a funny business- and manage to get your rhythm back, working your way cheerfully up to climax? Your ability to not take life too seriously takes the pressure off a a guy, and besides, your whole face lights up when you laugh, making the apples of your cheeks shine.
Whether your laughter is shy or snorting,giggly or roaring, its your ability to see the funny in the tragic and the mundane that is irresistible. the fact that you don't take things too seriously and are not hung up on making a mountain out of a mole hill, is something men find extremely endearing. Wondering how come his list of turn-ons in a woman is o close to your list of turn-ons in a man? Blame it on evolution. Maybe they're not the Neanderthals we think they are, Or maybe they are. but just better-dressed and with a slightly more attractive brain.Give him a chance , a little bit of credit, and he might just surprise you. And you might just surprise him.
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